DISCLAMER :

This section is filled with hot takes, unpopular opinions, and heated topics. While I'm okay with debating, to evolve my mindset, I'm not an idiot and won't easily change my mind. Please be respectfull, and if you lose your shit, please go do something else, something that'll actually make you happy. This page serves as a way to vent my frustration, I don't restrain myself, I tend to be crass and rude. Oh and if you want to screen shot it and post it online just to say "womp womp" or "I don't care", go do something better, because that's not critisism.

Trigger warnings for : Homophobia, Transphobia, Ablelism, Mentions of sex and BDSM, pedophilia/pedocriminality, mentions of gore. If reading about these topics distresses you, please click away. I'll add the appropriate TW before each points.

Hot takes and Pet Peeves

Censoring trigger warnings is dangerous => Trigger warnings aren't just written warnings, they also serve as keywords to filter your vents and rants for people who doesn't want to see them. How will the app/website be able to filter those if all the tags are censored with leet speak or stupid look-a-likes like "PDF file" for pedophile ? They can't. And there you go, by censoring yourself, you've accidently shoved something triggering in someone's for-you page after they tried to hide posts with the said tag. Don't be a moron, say the whole word, no one will die over one word.

Kids should have a serious, genuine and explicit sex education (tw sexual abuse, mention of sex)=> Before you call me any sort of innapropriate and false label, read the full thing. By sex education, it isn't just about intercourse, I'm also talking about puberty, menstruation, changes in emotions, feelings, consent, anything related to intimacy and sexuality as a whole. Sex ed should be more frequent and adapted to a broader number of age groups. A 6 year old should know about consent and that no one has to touch their private parts. A 11 year old should know what puberty is and how to deal with those changes, LGBTQIA+ topics and the dangers of early porn consumption. A 15 year old should know about sexualisation in medias, sexual abuse, sex practices, grooming online and offline, etc. I don't want people to hint at them, I want them to tell them directly about those topics, because the more they know about the topic, the less likely they are to be in dangerous situations.In our world, no one is safe from sexual abuse, and you're at higher risk if you have no clue on what sexual abuse is and how easy it is to find yourself in a grooming relationship. No, I don't want people to show kids how to have kinky sex, about the details of BDSM, or show them porn to teach them sex, don't put words I didn't wrote in this paragraph, because THIS is sexually abusive. What I want is for kids to not be clueless on a risk extremely present on social medias.

Trigger/dni lists are also dangerous => For those who didn't know, some folks online share lists where they put topics or people they don't want to interact with. I've heard it was supposed to warn their followers and friends about their own triggers, or to proove they don't support biggots or problematic stuff. First of all : you don't have to share every single thing that actively distresses you online, where anyone can see is (especially predators and trolls) . Do you seriously think that if you put "homophobes dni", homophobic morons will restrain themselves ? No, they'll double down to piss you off. If you don't want to see a certain type of content, filter it, most social medias have this option, and if someone DMs you with something triggering, BLOCK THEM. You don't owe anyone a whole list of stuff that'll actively hurt you, keep them to people you can trust with these informations.

You should be allowed to like "problematic" stuff. (tw : pedophilia)=> I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT PEDOPORNOGRAPHY OR SNUFFS ! You should be allowed to like Harry Potter, Mindless Self Indulgence, Yandere Simulator, The Painter, without being called a horrible label or "romantisizing abuse/gore/pedophilia". People have their own reasons to like problematic medias, and it's none of your business to assume the worse. Sure, if that person also shares the problematic parts of the media, they should be called out for it, but the media itself isn't solely responsible. Not all problematic medias are the same, calm down and think for a second. If playing GTA 5 won't turn a 16 year old into a gangster who runs over prostitudes, then listening to MSI won't turn a 16 year old into a pedophile just because Jimmy Urine made the song "panty shots".Fiction affects reality, but fiction isn't reality, you shouldn't analyse fictional events like they're real, regardless on how problematic or realistic it is, unless it it based or copying real life events.

Some drawings are just ugly => Ugly doesn't mean worthless, nor useless, nor that the artist is bad and they should stop drawing. But I'm not going to be a nice little ass kisser by saying that everyone makes beautiful, breath taking artwork. Sometimes, your drawing sucks ass. Sometimes, your stylistic choices makes your OC look incredibly unnapealing to look at. Sometimes, your lack of effort is showing. It doesn't mean you deserve mean comments, bullying, harrassement, and else. Hell, I, myself, unironically like bad drawings. I just don't side with those toxic positive art peeps who'll whine if you dare to suggest an art piece is ugly.

Adding a psychiatric term/diagnosis before "abuse" is ablelist and psychophobic. (tw psychophobia) => You know, "narcisistic abuse". I heavily dislike it because it normalises that some diagnosis are inherently bad. NPD and BPD can look-a-like a lot, and they belong in the same cluster, so if it's incredibly psychophobic to say "borderline abuse", then "narcisistic abuse" also is. Call out the abuse, not the mental illess, abuse is shitty and should be corrected, regardless of who does it.

You can't save others from their issues, and others can't save you from yours. => Support is great, and medical help is always welcomed. But, if someone doesn't actually put any effort into changing their behaviour and mindsets, no matter the amount of love you give them, they won't change. That includes you. If you don't want to change something bad about you, then stop forcing people to help you. Don't be a leech, and don't let people leech on you. Focus on making them see that they can change, and that it's worth it, don't bother changing them yourself. And if they still don't want to change... sorry but give up, go find new friends, mute their vents, don't waste your time saving people who likes to drown. Your time is limited and you should be focusing on yourself first. And if you feel like you HAVE to help them, then sorry but you're either being abused or you have self esteem issues.

Gore isn't better than Porn => (cw for gore and porn obviously)I really hate how much gore is so accepted and tolerated in kids/teenagers spaces, while lewd is excluded with no exeptions. I don't think minors should be seeing porn, especially encouraged by adults, but I don't think gore is any better. Kids can get addicted to watching gore videos because they can get a rush of emotions from them, kids can be groomed using gore to lower their tolerance level, and making gore art out of kids media and sharing it to them is weird. There's a double standard between gore and lewd, neither are good for mental health, so why an image of Pinkie Pie being sulfuric is seen as terrible, while Pinkie Pie's guts are a-ok to share on a sfw instagram account ? Perhaps you grew up or were groomed in a community that normalises gore art and now you don't see it as an issue anymore...

Closed species are hypocritical and scammy. =>I'm not talking about selling a character or a design, I'm talking about selling the rights to make a type of character. HOW ON EARTH ARTISTS ONLINE THOUGHT THAT FORCING ANYONE TO PAY TO GET THE RIGHT TO MAKE AN OC IS ACCEPTABLE ??? No seriously. Think about it. Artists take inspiration all the time on about anything, they sometimes even steal bits of another artists' work to impliment it in their art work, and then they'll make you pay just to get the right to create an oc with a set of characteristics. It's against the very nature of getting inspiration and a dirty move to put a paywall in front of anyone inspired. Imagine if tomorrow Oda forces you to pay him for making a fishman oc, people would hate it because it's selfish and greedy... so are most closed specie. I would support any artist who sells ocs they've made because its design is originial and they'll be given additional art work, but oh my god are those "Make your own" closed specie stuff incredibly stupid. Imagine having to win a contest or worse, PAY, just to be allowed to make ONE oc. Closed specie are basically rich kid's and rich furries nft without the ressource wasting part.

Chronically online dramas

Proship/Antis discourse is double standarded bullshit made by mentally immature weebs who can't take different opinions calmly.(homophobia, pedophilia) => Did you know that, technically, the moment you ship something that isn't canon, it's proshipping ? Back then, on tumblr, shipping war was really popular. There were whole blogs who were against the most random, harmless ship, and they called themselves "anti (shipping name)". Anti-ship blogs were also targeted mostly at queer ships, even non canon ones, which means that the origin of the anti movement is based in homophobia. So in the beggining, it wasn't a broad topic, it was specific from ship to ship, but the arguments were as stupid as they are right now. Before, you were called problematic for shipping Sanji and Zoro because they're not gay, nowadays, you're called problematic for shipping Sanji and Zoro because they're "abusing each other". The first and biggest issue is that there's no actual seperation between the sides, what actually seperates the two ? NOTHING ACTUALLY ! Both tends to bully the other group just because they don't share the exact same view on fictions. Both tend to bully each other, both has mediocre media litteracy, both should be touching grass. The other issue is that their sense of problematic is purely personal, so not even the group itself is coherent, which leads to frequent switchings between groups, or straight up giving up on the discourse entirely. Censorship isn't going to protect children, telling them to KYS just because they like to ship a not canon lesbian with a man, the same way as letting people post heavy, uncensored porn of two teenage characters is not fucking okay. Actually THINK before you type that stupid message on twitter, because you'll be seen as either a prudist idiot, or a predator enabler.

AI image generation won't help disabled folks (tw ablelism)=> I've seen people draw with their fucking mouth, disabled people will always find a way to deal with their disability if they want to draw. Disabled people don't need to lower themselves into using AI generation to make or get art, they can learn how to doodle, and some diabled folks makes masterpieces (Sarah Biffin is one of them, for example). If the only way you've find to make art, disabled or not, is to leech of other people's art, then you suck ass, pick up a pencil or go find another hobby if it's too hard. And if you can't do that neither, then MAYBE you have more pressing issues than to draw anime tits.

Do you even know what problematic is ? (tw romantisizing mass murder, pedophilia) => Sometimes, when I'm bored, I type a fictional character's name, followed by "carrd", because some people doesn't know what problematic is and yet will label litteral children media as problematic. I've seen, no jokes here, someone label "Steven Universe" as problematic. Is the show perfect and without issues ? No. But is it problematic ? That would be a huge stretch, and sincerely unfair. Something descriped as problematic is when something creates, reinforces or normalises a problem. An actual problematic media would be Rampage (2009, Uwe Boll), as the main character is seen as deep and justified in his mass murders, even though he's merely just the incarnation of #i'm14andthisisdeep with riffles, and sometimes even bullshit pumped out of facebook groups. Another problematic media would be Puppy Milk (Agatha Kartoffel), since her comic is about deeply personal, sexuality-related vent art, which depics sexual abuse/cohertion very explicity of her child (self insert ?) oc, and it was shared online. I also believe there's a scale in problematic content, because some of these content is just questionnable but perfectly legal, while some should genuinely be banned (CP, snuff, that kind of stuff).

No, Bi-lesbian (or contradictory/weird labels in general) isn't problematic. => Have you seen how queer people in the 90's describes themselves ? People using weird ass labels has always existed, and you bullying others about it makes you look like a close minded assholes. Not everyone is the perfect little queer who fits their label perfectly, some go wild. Unless the label includes ACTUAL harm (zoophile, MAP, super-straight, etcetera...), you shouldn't be giving a damn about how people experience their lives and how they label it.

(One Piece) Yamato is both a good AND terrible trans character. (tw transphobia and spoils) => I wholeheartly believe that Yamato is a transgender character, because gender is kind of weird and some people relies heavily on their idoles to transition, and even after the end of the Wano Arc, he still keeps he/him pronouns. His whole arc is about fighting for his identity (not really as a man, but as Oden), he bathes in the men only hot springs, he calls himself Kaido's son, and that if "Oden was a man, then I (Yamato) will be one to !". He's visibly gender non conforming, probably because he lives in an isolated island with no means to alter his physical appearance and body, and I don't think him being visibly AFAB isn't an issue, it doesn't cancel his (nor anyone's) identity. HOWEVER, Everything outside of the story makes his transidentity questionnable. He's put in the female only art work (Kiku, a trans woman, is excluded), his vive card calls him "female" with no additions (unlike Kiku who is "Male (heart of a maiden, which is an euphenism for identifies as a woman)"), and there are a lot of focus on his chest, just like most female characters in One Piece. It would have been such a good representation if Oda and his teams weren't cowards by making Yamato just a girl who uses he/him pronouns.

Shipping culture is bullshit. I'm not talking about taking it light heartedly, or making fanarts of two characters you like smooching, I'm talking about making whole blogs pro/anti a certain ship, having genuine arguments about it, making it your whole online identity, etc... Can you, just for a second, see that your favourite media isn't just about shipping ? Amatonormativity is so present in our cultures, mixed with fandoms, it created one of the worst online argument (see above "Proship/Antis discourse is double standarded bullshit made by mentally immature weebs who can't take different opinions calmly.").

Cringe culture isn't dead.(tw ablelism) =>I agree a 100% that we should not bully or harass anyone for having "cringe" interests, I won't mock anyone for liking kids stuff or making fursuit out of paper or whatever cringy thing. BUT I heavily disagree with the idea that it has died. Not only cringe compilations are not dead (they've just evolved into art lore and equivalents), but people bullying you for making them cringe is still very common. Art lore is still a thing, many kids are being roasted for wonky, bad art, autistic people are still mocked for having the wrong special interest, etc ! Cringe culture can't die because the source won't go away (which is the ever growing expectation that anything you post should be perfect). I want it to die, but it's not dead. And no, making a sparkle dog oc and dressing in alt clothes doesn't mean you're fully against cringe culture if you still harass anyone who isn't fitting your expectation of "acceptable cringe". Either accept all the cringe, or shut up.